Choose friends wisely

You can’t choose family; you are stuck with the one you were born with. I for sure was a kid who would have loved to disown one of my strange uncles but blood runs thick (and now I’m glad I didn’t). This is however not the case when it comes to your social network. It is an interesting dynamic; as a kid you socialise mainly with your cousins but this changes as you grow older. With age, you have a say as to who is welcome in your life and who isn’t; these decisions shape you. It’s a control that you have over your own life that you should exercise because these people can make or break you.

An open door policy probably shouldn’t apply here. By all means, open your doors and your horizons when meeting new people but if you find traits that are problematic, close the door. You will feel the alarm going off inside your head because of an incredibly off-putting attitude. We all have friends or family that love nothing but sulk and complain. It’s as if they have a little grey cloud following them wherever they go and you can’t get through a small talk without hearing them groan about something. That’s not just off-putting, it affects your mood and if the only reason this person likes you because you listen to them 24/7, it’s probably not a good friendship. It’s because you are the only one listening and they’re the only ones talking. Friends have an incredible effect on us, whether we like to think of us as fiercely independent or not.

Time can simultaneously mean very little and a great deal when it comes to friendship. If you’ve had a friend since Primary school you will share great stories/memories, inside jokes and similar childhoods. Often times it’s also the case where you have grown apart and have become two completely different people but both of you hold on due to the strings of commitment i.e. it’d be a shame to lose touch with someone who you’ve known for so many years. It’s understandable, but it shouldn’t be the sole reason why you decide to keep someone around. Time is precious after all, why spend it around people who you don’t really like but feel somewhat obliged to because of some external factor like when you met?

It is crucial to surround yourself with people who will pull you up. If instead you spend your entire time with a bunch of people who haven’t left their houses in weeks, they are probably not going to be people you respect. If you are looking to succeed in life, these people are probably not going to kick-start your system when you need it and help you thrive. In fact, they might even demotivate you indirectly because you look around and find people perfectly happy sitting at home doing next to nothing. If you have to compare yourself, compare up and let it be a motivator, not the reason for inaction.



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  1. I LOVE this post! I just came from a best friend breakup and I am still torn on being friends with her again or not because I don’t really know if she’s just faking in front of my face or not. But this post is a great help! ❤️

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    1. Thank you! Ah I’m sorry to hear that, honestly a friendship break up is just as bad as a romantic one. You are losing part of yourself but you just have to see if you’re left with more or less from this friendship and take the initiative. Thanks for dropping the comment!

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  2. So very true. I have to learn lots of lessons when it comes to friendships. Nowadays I only have two very close friends that I believe to be close enough to share my heart with and vice versa. Thanks for a great post. Hayley 😊

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  3. I can really relate to your message in this post. Especially in relation to choosing people who pull you up, not drag you down. I used to be around some pretty negative and passive people who’d only complain and never do anything about their lives.. I stayed with them because it was comfortable and “safe”, until I realised it was making a negative impact on my life and my world view instead of motivating me and inspiring me positively. I’ve cut them out and as a result am much more productive and positive now. Great ideas as always! 🙂

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