I’ve been lucky to witness a new beginning for a loved one. I am starting to internalise the complexities of feelings one goes through when moving out of your mother’s home for good, buying a new house that is yours to keep forever and truly stepping out of your comfort zone that was your childhood home for so long.
Neglect – I’ve seen it time and time again. Be it romantic relationships, friendships or even familial bonds – we fall into the spiral of neglect. I’ll be truthful, I’ve been known to neglect – I can behave like absolute trash. I’ve also been on the receiving end.
A Dichotomy is when you find yourself staring at is the battle between two belief systems that usually work great in unison. The mature settler and the immature dreamer. We need the first to progress in life but the latter makes sure we enjoy it. The first is about a concrete destination while the 2nd pronounces the journey and hopes for an epic end – an end that may not come to realisation. Yes, we need both, but there are times when life makes you choose. Who do you choose?
I have always loved the show ‘How I Met Your Mother’ and Barney’s Challenge Accepted. Of course, for one, the show is hilarious. The stories are often relatable and have a certain depth to them. Most of all, however, one can never read enough into the little quirks that the main characters personify including Barney Stinson; an existence that is arguably entirely a collection of quirks. He is a larger than life character and one of his many mottoes (and also one of my favourite) being Challenge accepted.
How come we fear the process of rejecting the norm? Don’t you think it strange that we spend most of our lives with people we haven’t chosen? I am talking about your office neighbours. You didn’t choose them, they didn’t choose you. We didn’t go through some psychological metric test to see if we are compatible. It’s your work based skill and experience that brought you here and among these people. You see them more often and longer than your family, your friends, your significant other, even your kids. You can absolutely dislike them but make-do. That’s what adults do.
The Audacity of Hope was a phrase used by President Obama (then still a senator) in 2004 during a keynote speech at the Democratic convention in Boston.
It is an act of rebellion in a world that suppresses hope in so many ways. It is to dare to believe in a better future. You dare to find a higher purpose, higher values and higher expectations than perhaps society allows you to.
Don’t judge? But we like it. We judge on demographics too (we don’t like that one too much). No, it’s not because you are an asshole, it’s just the way humans do. Judging age is more socially accepted, judging a race, not so much.
Compromise is one thing I hate to engage in. Chances are, so do you. Sure, you may be able to get around to compromising when it comes to choosing pizza toppings (unless it’s pineapples. I mean come on people, pineapple? Really?), but any more than that can be a real challenge.