I’ve been lucky to witness a new beginning for a loved one. I am starting to internalise the complexities of feelings one goes through when moving out of your mother’s home for good, buying a new house that is yours to keep forever and truly stepping out of your comfort zone that was your childhood home for so long.
Neglect – I’ve seen it time and time again. Be it romantic relationships, friendships or even familial bonds – we fall into the spiral of neglect. I’ll be truthful, I’ve been known to neglect – I can behave like absolute trash. I’ve also been on the receiving end.
Change is daunting. Humans by nature tend to be somewhat averse to the concept. Heck, even when it’s for the better such as moving to a bigger and better home – it’ll cause you some anxiety. Be it the new job which comes with a better pay and sure – more responsibilities. You will feel yourself pulling back and hesitating just a little bit. You may shiver from the unexpected drop in temperature as you step out of your comfort zone.
What would you do indeed? Sometimes it comes in the form of a painful realisation that just because you can doesn’t mean you should. It’s about knowing yourself well enough that if someone offers you gold on a platter that it might not be the right thing for you, even if objectively it is. Maybe it’s not wrong now, maybe it always will be. It’s holding yourself back from short-term pleasure by understanding the weaknesses you have. That something may change you for the worse or result in more pain means turning your back on something that no one else would. You are the only one who understands your flaws and what will exacerbate those flaws. Act on what you know about yourself.
How many times have you yourself thought about how amazing it’d be to be able to read minds? But once you dug into it more, you understood rather reluctantly that this blessing was a curse in disguise.
‘Ignorance is bliss‘ may not be the perfect over-arching motto of life but it counts as a significant footnote.
“Learn to close my eyes.”
I’ve always found this sort of attitude incredibly calming – it’s just paper, it is just money. It forces perspective with three words, automatically sorting out your value system. It’s a reminder, one that we no doubt need.
It’s just money – it’s not happiness
Many of us tend to be a bit of a career-holic. Obsessively trying to climb that ladder, wanting bigger and better, a better title, better money, bigger desk and a shiny car with a personalised number plate. And then when we hit a bit of a speed bump and obsess when we find life is more difficult than expected. Take a moment and prioritise what is material and what is real.
Oh god, the morning commute today. What time is it? Ha, only the 1st one of my 5 alarms. Snooze. Snooze… Snooze!! Snooze. Okay, can’t snooze now.
Please let the loo be free, please, please. Oh man. I’ll get my tea on then. My god, it’s freezing downstairs – is the radiator even on? Hm, apparently it is.
We have an innate desire to be remembered and to leave a legacy. The things we do to have our existence be marked. The need to be continued to be thought of even if we aren’t around to do so directly. Whether it’s in secondary school, carving your name into the playground bench reading ‘Maddie waz here’ or leaving something behind at your workplace so that whenever people do see it, they think of you and your legacy. To plant something for an infinite amount of time which represents you. The whole – “this is your song” is synonymous for “Remember me when you listen to this”.
Granted, pride is often used as a negative. Making up part of the 7 deadly sins in Christianity and just getting an all-around bad rep among most religions. Even folk tales rarely look kindly on it. It’s always about modesty and humility – but are they really at odds?
Truth is a complex concept. When we dislike someone, whether for their externals, intentions or mere presentation, we have a habit of finding the flaws that we’re looking for.
Generalisations – You are this, therefore, you believe this. We purposefully misread benign words spoken or even downright misquote.